I used to (and honestly still do sometimes) spin a lot in my head when it came to making decisions and knowing what was the “right” thing to do.
I have two things against me:
- I am a Libra. And we just hate to make decisions, period.
- I am a natural butterfly, a Vata in Ayurvedic terms, so while I am great at all things transformation, I do tend to flitter around and easily become ungrounded and disconnected from my soul voice.
The truth is, there is really no 100%, guaranteed way to know if what you are doing is the best thing for you. But there are certainly clues that you can hone on to, and the Universe certainly gives its two cents if you pay attention.
Here’s an example of when something is meant to be…
I got an infection yesterday and if you know anything about me, I am very conscious about my health, avoiding synthetic drugs (especially antibiotic overuse) and turning to herbs and natural healing aids (as they really do work in most cases). However, I was in pain and was debating about heading to the doctor for an antibiotic. The truth is I am very grateful for emergency medicine and do know there is a time and place for it.
Anyway, it was 9:30 at night and my symptoms had gotten worse. So I was debating about just taking some more herbs and waiting to see how I felt in the morning, or going to urgent care, getting pills, and dealing with most likely a higher price and long wait time. I knew I wouldn’t sleep though if I chose to suck it up and deal until morning.
I decided to just do some research, and with a little help from the Divine and my mom, I found a clinic satellite of our local hospital that was open until 11pm. It was 10:30pm. I threw on clothes and headed out. What could it hurt?
Needless to say, I got in the doors before closing, there was only one person in front of me, and they seemed to take my crappy insurance. Triple bonus. I got in and out, and there was even a 24 hour pharmacy just a mile away so I was able to get the antibiotic filled. Honestly, it was easier than making an appointment and going to a regular doctor.
I knew as I was going through the process, and things just fell into place so easily, that I needed to be there and I made the right choices for myself.
Here’s an example when things aren’t as clear…
I was presented with an opportunity to do some psychotherapy work for a government employee assistance program. I struggled with this as I really wanted to transition from a therapy model to a coaching model, and had already closed my private therapy practice. I wasn’t sure if I was meant to hold on to the past, continue to balance both, or move on.
The most confusing wrench in the whole deal is that I had to get fingerprinted, which made sense, but I had to do it THREE times. First I think they were lost, as I couldn’t get a reason. Then they were unclear. And I am still awaiting the results of the third.
I wondered (and still do) if this was a sign from the Universe to quit while I was ahead. But I do enjoy the psychotherapy work, the clientele would be those I enjoy working with, and I totally clicked with the people that run the program. Plus, they paid me back a in very timely manner for each fingerprinting fee I paid.
I checked in with my physical body (because the body doesn't lie, unlike your monkey mind), and I felt calm.
So I decided that I would continue with the fingerprinting process, allowing myself the “3 strikes and you are out rule”, and just put out there to the Universe that if it was meant to happen, then I will be cleared and can move forward.
The reality is that not everything that goes wrong is a “sign” that you aren’t supposed to persevere. Sometimes things just go wrong.
Here’s an example when the Universe is screaming at you to run the other way…
I went to a job interview way back when I was still doing technology work. It was “suggested” by my husband, and while I could probably do the job, I truthfully wasn’t interested. It was something I felt like I “should” do for the betterment of my family’s financial future.
Sign #1, the word “should”. I wasn’t invested, but I told myself that it was a good opportunity so I pursued.
The interview was about 2 hours from my home, so I had to take a day off from my other job and take a road trip. On the way there I hit major traffic, got lost in downtown Orlando, and because I got lost I ended up in a “bus only” lane which led to me getting pulled over and being issued a traffic ticket by a cop who obviously hated his job. Sign #2, 3 and 4.
When I finally made the interview, I was totally reeling on the inside for not just saying I didn’t really want to do this in the first place. And as the cherry on top, the person interviewing me acted like they would rather be having a root canal, and asked more questions about my husband’s skills / job than mine. Sign #5.
I am sure it doesn’t shock the hell out of you that I didn’t get the job. But the lady did have the respect to call me and tell me that I wasn’t selected, in which I responded, “I know, and it truly is a good thing”.
Ultimately, I learned that I had to TRUST MYSELF and the guidance that was give to me. I had to really pay attention to the ease of flow versus swimming upstream.
What is flowing easily for you right now? What FEELS fluid and aligned? What do you feel like you are constantly battling against? That is like pulling teeth, and that you honestly just aren’t invested in it regardless of how good it sounds?
You know the “right” decisions. Trust yourself. Listen to your soul voice.
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